Does the proposal matter?
Does the wedding matter?
Why/How Why/How not?

These were some of the questions we were asked this week during our discussion in class. At first I didn't think it really mattered if you had some big or special proposal and extravagant wedding, through our discussion I have learned what is ideal and what we should watch out for. When the guy proposes it a big extravagant way, in front of a large group of people, it can make the girl feel pressured to say yes even if she really doesn't feel like she is ready for marriage. When he asks the girl in a quiet private setting, if there are any concerns the couple are much more likely to talk about some of them, instead of just jumping into a situation that they aren't ready for.

We talked about what makes the wedding what it is. The wedding doesn't have to be a huge ordeal, you can have a very nice little reception. The purpose of a reception is for the community to receive the new couple as husband and wife, and not for the couple to provide this elaborate party for all the guests to attend. it is amazing how much of this concept has been skewed over the years. We have lost sight of what getting married is all about, and it has turned into a huge ordeal to impress those who should be accepting us for who we really are.